There is not much on the net that I found useful in terms of "How to Have Better Cybersex". RLC signs people up and throws them into the ocean. My "travels" and I'm sure the experiences of the Noir team indicate that perhaps people could use a little help with that problem. It is a complicated subject, so I had to put a lot of thought into this.... there will be at least one other essay posted, probably more. ************* It is said that in human beings sex is 90% in the head.
In RLC it is 100%. I don't know how much of the 90% in the head thing is evolution or it is the result of living in civilizations.
We all have need and wants. Men's needs and wants, his motivations, are different from those of women.
The more you understand the motivations, the better a friend and lover you can be.
Soem of the needs and wants are hardwired.... evolutionary... from caveman times and even before. A lot of these things are in place to ensure survival of the species as we evolved.
Men... I think mentally healthy ones... are wired at a basic level to mate (have sex), and also to Provide and Protect their women and children. Women... again on very basic level.... are wired to mate (have sex) , but also to nurture and support. A lot of behavior stems from these primal instincts.
There is a a very basic need of all humans for security.
Insecurity, that is fear which was built into us as a survaival instinct. A part of that is the need for reassurance, comfort, love and so on. The love of man, at least the love of THIS man comes from being Provider-Protector. The love of women, for the most part, I have found to be different.
What is the cure for inecurity? Reassurance.
What are affraid of? First of being alone, Humans are social beings. We are not hatched from eggs, we are conceived, gestated and born alive. We are worried about our mortality.... and all it comes with.
For men, in youth "will I be enough", as an older person, as the body slows down we see ourselves falling apart. For women, "am I attractive, will I have someone, am I enough", and as older, a lot of the same. There are many more examples, of course.
Now, slap 10,000 years or so of civilization and society, and things for individuals and between men and women get complicated..... maybe more so with every passing decade or century. Yes, I am generalizing, we are complicated creatures and this is a complicated subject,and one has to start somewhere.
How the above writing relates to RLC and cybersex, is a long leap. That story is more about how for the most part Western Civilization came from prehistoric times to the 2000s. More to follow. Dogfather 42 Phil
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